I had this post in my que for awhile but its a post I really wanted to share. I was on strict bed rest for 11 weeks! Yes 11! I was a very good patient too. I am by no means an expert but after 11 weeks I do have a few tips.
1. When people want to visit you…let them!
My mom and sisters come every single day to the hospital and stay all day. Every. single. day. I will forever be grateful to them for keeping me company, it made so many days shorter. In between my family, Jerry brought Ardo a couple times a week, my mama in law would visit and of course my sweet friends, it was the nicest feeling. At first when I checked in, and people wanted to come visit me I wasn't sure because I thought, well it's just me, our little guy isn't here yet. Then I quickly realized how ridiculous that was, and I said yes please come, and they did and usually they brought yummy food!
2. Take your laptop or iPad you are gonna need it.
If you're like me and had to go on bed rest before you could get everything ready for baby, you'll want to do that from the hospital. I spent lots of time on my laptop browsing, pinning, and ordering for little baby, for me, for Ardo, even Jerry got a surprise or two every once in awhile. It was a perfect way for me to watch some of my favorite shows using netflix. Speaking of which while I was in the hospital, I got hooked on Orange is the New Black. I watched season one in a few days and lucky for me season two came out just a few weeks after I was admitted. I cannot WAIT for season 3, I'm trying to get Jerry hooked, he's watched but I don't think he's crazy about it like I am.
3. Nurses are your friends.
NOT YOUR ENEMY. I'm actually not sure why anyone would think to be mean to their nurse in the hospital, actually that's not true I can think of a reason, if your nurse is a snot then by all means do what you must but for me in the high risk unit at my hospital, the nurses were not only angels, they became my best friends. I did like a few more than others I will admit that, but all the nurses were just great. They would come into my room to check on me, to tell me things, crack jokes, always made sure I was the most comfortable I could be. I had a night nurse who would come in to visit even when I wasn't her patient (I wonder if she ever go that dog we talked about so many nights). I actually do miss those ladies. If and this is just an IF, if you need to not like someone I have the perfect group, the people in the white coats…the vampires that came to take my blood whenever my Dr would ask for it. Now THOSE people I didn't smile at I didn't talk to, I let them take my blood then I would complain to them to my nurses later. :)
4. If you there is a network at the hospital, let them come and visit.
This might sound similar to suggestion 1, except in this case you are allowing someone to visit you you've never met. Around week 5 in the hospital my nurses asked me if I'd like a visitor from a volunteer and former patient who was on bed rest. This former patient was already making her rounds so I said why not. I can't remember the name of the woman but she came in and she was so sweet. You could tell she just really wanted to help. Her story was she was pregnant with twins when her cervix started to shorten so she had to stay on bed rest for 3 weeks til she delivered. She and I both thought it was a little funny I had already surpassed her bed rest and had at least 7 more weeks if not longer. Even still, this woman was so nice to talk to because no matter how long, it was nice being able to exchange stories and bond with someone who had gone through the exact same thing I was going through. So my advice is if there is a volunteer who just wants to connect, it's a really nice feeling to do so.
I could probably write pages and pages on bed rest and I might write one more post but these are my tips to start. As I've said before, if any of you ladies are on bed rest right now and would like to email me to talk, I'd be more than happy to talk!