Shabu Shabu

These cold nights call for some warm food. In my city, asian restaurants are a dime a dozen. Last night a few friends of mine went to a little gem called Tokyo Shabu Shabu.
Just in case, shabu shabu is: Hot pot dish related to the Chinese fondue and the sukiyaki. Thin slices of meat and vegetables are
boiled in a common pot, then usually dipped in sauces. (thank you internet definitions)
To my amazement two of my friends have never had Shabu Shabu?!?! What? We ordered the "special" which is basically lots of meat and veggies for two people. So we ordered two. At Shabu Shabu you get to choose the broth you would like to cook your food in. When the server said it would be 5 more dollars for spicy broth I decided to stick with water.....um, MISTAKE! Lesson learned? Never be cheap when it comes to flavor. Oscar was smart and ordered spicy broth, we kinda all took over his side. The evening consisted of very grown up conversation. We had a few topics we needed to address, the grown up part was, everyone had something to say and everyone was heard. I really enjoyed it. I have to admit it was a nice dinner, because I was actually able to pay attention. Sometimes its nice to be able to go out with friends and have dinner and know Ardo and Jerry are having daddy time. Anytime I'm not with Ardo (excluding work)I always get that much needed recharge, simple things like that make me a better mom. Once we were done being grown ups, we acted like high schoolers again, a very nice balance. You know what I notice? Whenever I get around old friends I start to act like I did the day I met them. I can't help it. And I kinda like it that way. =)

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Something happened the other day. I know I said I wouldn't be mentioning Ardos not sleeping through the night anymore but I kinda have too. As I've been writing the past few weeks have been really tough on Jerry and I. It's not so much Ardo not sleeping as much as it is the crying. If he was just awake, that would be one thing but when he's crying and carrying on that's what makes things hectic. So the other morning he woke us up at 7am. We got up with him gave him breakfast and then started to get ready for the day. Around 8:30 Ardo had a crying fit. Jerry was trying to console him but he was kinda throwing a little tantrum, so I told Jerry to leave him and let him cry. I was in our room getting ready and our room shares a wall with the neighbor (we live in a duplex).

Our neighbor is a single woman in her early 30's. She is quiet as a little church mouse, she never has guests over, she has no kids or pets so its easy for a single woman to stay quiet on her side. Us on the other hand we have a 19 month old (cranky) toddler, two dogs, and, US. I think we try to be respectful to our neighbor but are we the quietest? I doubt it.

So back to Ardo's fit, Friday morning he was carrying on and I told Jerry to just let him cry. The next thing I hear is 3 bangs coming from the wall. I wasn't exactly sure if it was the neighbor at first. I quickly jumped up and asked Jerry if someone was here? No. Then I peaked outside to see if the neighbor had a visitor? No. Then I got mad. The neighbor had banged on the wall. I got mad because my initial thought was, "I'm so tired! I'm already dealing with my cranky tot, and now I have to deal with "disturbing" the neighbor." I have to admit my initial reaction was to bang on the wall back. That was the 17 year old inside me. But I didn't. Ardo stopped his fussing we finished getting ready and off we went. The whole day I thought about my neighbor and our situation. I had a feeling at some point if Ardo kept going the way he was going, we were going to hear from the neighbor but I always figured, she would come over, or write a note, so her reaction surprised me.

By Sunday I thought, during the week I'll go over to my neighbors and talk to her. I'll apologize, but the problem I was having is, I don't know how to make it stop. I don't have a solution. I've been thinking of a solution for the few weeks and nothing is working. Sunday night there's a knock at the door, yes it was my neighbor. (P.s. want to know what Ardo was doing? He was crying in his room because I was changing his diaper.) Jerry opened the door and spoke with her. She brought us CUPCAKES and just wanted to talk about the noise. She said, she understood there isn't that much we can do, but wanted us to be aware she can really hear him through the walls. She asked if maybe instead of bringing him into our room as he's fussing if we could maybe take him into the living? She apologized for banging on the wall but she said she was frustrated that morning and just reacted. Jerry apologized to her and told her Ardo was going through a fussy, wake up all throughout the night phase. He said we try and get him calm as soon as possible but sometimes he just wants to cry. She said she wanted to have an open communication with us. I was so relieved, because we did feel bad, and I guess our walls are thinner than we thought (I wonder what else she can hear from our bedroom????) I really appreciated her coming over. It's nice to know she wanted to make us aware but she wasn't angry and she understands as much as she can about what is going on over here. Will all crying stop? No never, but we are trying over here.



Thanksgiving was a good day. We had a small gathering at Helens house for thanksgiving. Just family, and one friend. Looking around our table I was feeling very thankful for the people family around me. And my Ardo, who has been doing everything he can to make me crazy (he is almost succeeding) but of course I am thankful for him. My little guy. And Jerry, who catches me when I do fall into crazy mode. If it wasn't for Jerry I don't know how I could ever stay balanced. Lots of food this weekend. LOTS! Not just Thanksgiving food either Jerry and I used the weekend to indulge. So Im using the next few weeks to um, not.

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ps I took no pictures of our food...I dont know why, it's very fitting for a Thanksgiving post. oops!! I do have a picture of our lunch on Saturday tho, if that counts?
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Tired and Blogging

Hey folks, okay so I'm not trying to beat this subject to death but I have to be honest. I haven't been in a blogging mood lately. My last post was a week ago and I was complaining about Ardo and his wonderful new sleeping habit. Because of his sleeping habit, I've been so tired lately. Really tired. It seems my lack of sleep is really starting to catch up with me. I think because Ardo is older and has much more energy, when he wakes up throughout the night and then he wants to play throughout the day it takes a lot out of me. In the months prior to this sleep change after work we'd take Ardo to the park, let him get some energy out, feed him, bath him, storytime and then bedtime. Once bedtime hit I would do what I could around the house and then some blogging. But these past few weeks, I haven't picked up my computer, at all. I have no creative juices flowing right now. And I have to say I hate this feeling. This phase of waking up at almost 19 months feels like a killer. I've mentioned before when Ardo was a newborn and waking up on a 24 hour schedule, I was fine. I was never super tired, I guess I just expected it so I dealt with it fine. For a year I woke up in the middle of the night, and rarely was I tired the next day. But, now, now it's a different story. Thank you to everyone who keeps encouraging me that this is just a phase and it will pass. I was sharing with a friend recently that after 19 months I still feel as tho I'm trying to figure out how to be a working mom. You know whats crappy about being a working mom when your toddler won't sleep, YOU HAVE TO BE AT WORK AT A CERTAIN TIME. On the days Ardo doesn't sleep and I see the time ticking away, all I can think about is I have to wake up for work in 5 hours, then 4 hours, then 3, then before I know I'm in the shower getting ready for a full day. Once I get to work I have to ... you know, work! I'm thinking, I'm expected to function like a regular human being when I'm actually a zombie with lip gloss on?
Okay I promise this is the last tired post from me.....for awhile. =)
I felt a post like this would recharge me, and honestly just writing these words out, I think it's already working.


when my child won't sleep...

it's the hardest time of the day. Ardo has never ever, been a great sleeper. When he was a newborn, literally weeks old I can remember someone asking if he was a good sleeper? I can remember thinking how absurd I thought that question was seeing that he was weeks old. When Ardo woke up every 2-3 hours on a 24 hour schedule, I remember thinking how normal that was. As the month went by Ardo got better, but sleeping through the night was NOT something he wanted to be apart. So he woke up once a night every night from 8-12 months. After 12 months, shockingly, he started sleeping through the night. I couldn't believe how much sleep I was missing out on. Since about 12 months we've had a regular routine for Ardo, play-bath-book-sleep. That's our routine and its worked for us, but lately Ardo has off set our routine. He's waking up in the middle of the night screaming. SCREAMING!!! Just in case you didn't notice the first time. Can I just say the worse way to be woken up in the middle of the night is by your screaming toddler. Something I've mentioned before on this blog is how Ardo doesn't sleep in our bed. For the most part this is a good thing, but when it's 2am and you have to be up at 6:45am to start getting ready for work, all you want is for your tot to sleep....ANYWHERE! I don't know what to do at this point except to ride it out. I almost wish him waking up was more consistant like it was back in the day (10 months ago) only because at least I knew what I was in for, at least then he was consistent. This way throws me for such a loop. I think the worse part is, this isn't teething related, this is just random wake-up-and-Im-scared-mom-come-get-me stuff.
Oh Ardo, please sleep through the night little one.
Please, please, or at least if you have to wake up maybe be less cranky?? You pick. =)

How do I get these two reversed?? (and yes Goliath is under the covers ... what? he's cold)
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oh that Dexter Morgan

Confession time, I WATCH TELEVISION!!! Yes I watch tv and I always have. I have to say the more blogs I followed the more I saw how many people we're not watching tv. At first I felt a little ashamed reading blog after blog with no television in their lives. I actually admire people that watch very little to no tv. Its something I probably could never do simply because I'm not that person. I enjoy tv, and I watch EVERYTHING. From golden girls and I love lucy to housewives I watch it all. I will say I don't watch the way I used to, with a toddler obviously you can't and I pat myself on the back that Ardo shows very little interest in tv right now. (must be his daddys influence) But my favorite show right now and for a long while is DEXTER! I love me some Dexter Morgan. In case you've never watched, Dexter is about a serial killer who only kills bad guys. That's the shortened version, its such a well scripted, well acted show. And I'm obsessed. I didn't watch the first few seasons, I had heard about it but I just didn't get into it, my brother would tell me all the time I needed to watch. I moved to Alabama and Jerry couldn't believe I didn't watch. So one week while he was off from work we had a Dexter marathon and watched 3 seasons in one week! From then on I've been hooked. If you don't watch I highly suggest you do. You'll find yourself really rooting for a serial killer and completely justify why he kills. Or if you're like me, when certain characters come on, you'll want him to kill them (i.e. Lila oh I still hate her!) Okay confession time over. =)
P.s. Anyone else watch Dexter? What did you think about Sundays episode?


color run

color run

Saturday was the color run in San Diego. I use the word "run" very loosely, because we didn't run, we walked very quickly. I didn't know what to expect. I've volunteered for the Revlon run/walk many years, but they don't douse you with color every mile. I wish I could have taken a video of each color and us going through it. The more excited and the more "woooo" we said, the more they gunned for you. I don't know why I thought they would be squirting paint on us, it was actually colored corn starch, and I have to say it made the clean up a lot easier. Next color run we are definitely going to bring a sheet to sit on for the drive home. Although the clean up was easier because we were able to dust most of it off, it was still a whole lot of color. After the run we went to grab a bite to eat, the looks on the faces of the people we passed were hilarious. After about an hour all the color meshed together so instead of colorful, we basically looked like zombies. Whatever, I still enjoyed my tacos!

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I didn't know what to anticipate this Halloween. I was excited for Ardo to actually be able to walk and say please (he doesn't know how to say please but he can sign please). I don't think Ardo understood that when trick or treating you are not going over to the local neighbors for a sit down visit. Every house he tried going inside! Most of our neighbors are elderly so they welcomed it. Needless to say he slowed us down just a bit, and so much for him walking around the neighborhood, Ardo was a slow poke! He was so fascinated with all the kids out and all the costumes, this mama banana wound up holding her monkey most of the time, switching off with daddy banana and Jerrys cousin. Regardless of the extra exercise, we had such a great time. The look on Ardo's face when he received candy simply for standing at the door, was priceless. Oh what to do with all this candy our Ardo can't have just yet. We're donating most of it to Jerry's work, I have NO self control.

ps just a tip, if you ever, ever decide to dress like a banana for Halloween, be prepared to be harrassed ALL.NIGHT.LONG! I'm not kidding when I say people were honking and screaming BANANA outta their cars, and from across the street, again ALL.NIGHT.LONG! So worth it tho, my little Banana-Monkey Family.

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